Everything we do is for love or out of love. In order to flourish in life like we know we should, we have to set healthy boundaries. Start loving yourself and watch your entire life change. Piggybacking off of my last post, Why You Need A Self-Care Plan and How To Create One, I realized that I’d never created healthy boundaries in any of my relationships. I was giving away my energy to everyone and everything.  I did not make space for myself to feel ok, space to breathe and be okay in my own self, comfort and (in)security.

You are the dream.

You are your greatest desire.

You are everything you’re looking for.

I’ve since learned how to set healthy boundaries in my life. I’ve learned that I am enough. It’s okay to be alone. Alone doesn’t mean lonely. It’s okay to be uncomfortable comfortable and a tad bit insecure.

Here’s what you need to know to begin setting healthy boundaries in your own life:

3 Things To Know About Setting Healthy Boundaries

1.  Self-Care Ain’t Always Fun

When you take the time and have the intentionality to care for yourself, life gets so much easier. You begin to take notice of things that you had begun to ignore. The sun starts shining just a little bit brighter. The birds start chirping a  much more beautiful song. Life just becomes beautiful all over again. Setting healthy boundaries is the epitome of self-love. You need to make space for yourself to feel, to think and to just be without the influence or input of anything or anyone else. Making the decision to set boundaries in your life, give you creative control over your life. You get to decide who, what, where, and how things change.

My lack of boundaries left me wide open to experiencing let downs and disappointments. Setting boundaries and being honest with yourself isn’t fun, but it’s essential to your growth and peace of mind. Don’t play victim to your feelings — reclaim your time by getting rid of things and people that don’t serve you.

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2. Healthy Boundaries Are About You

Setting healthy boundaries is about creating a balance within yourself. You have the power to determine your relationships in your life. You are the creator of your reality. Every decision you make is all about you. No one else has that power over you, just you. And healthy boundaries must be set in all areas of your life because you don’t want to drain your energy putting it towards thoughts, feelings, and desires that aren’t in line with your true intentions.

My intentions were never really about me. I was always focused on my kids, on making sure everyone else around me was ok, making sure everyone felt loved and appreciated, and worst of all, my insecurities. I focused all of my energy on everyone else’s desires and thoughts that I forgot about myself.

Your intentions should always be about uncovering your true, authentic self. You have all the power you need to change your thoughts about yourself. You are worthy of everything you desire, even if setting healthy boundaries means letting go of things and people you thought you needed.

You are creating an intentional, free space for yourself to experience the fullness of you.

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3. Healthy Boundaries Teach Love

Self-care is love, but making room and adjustments to your boundaries is the ultimate form of self-love. When you being to pay attention to yourself, you force others to look within themselves and become curious about why you have become so protective of your happiness and your time.

People may start to see themselves in you. Your friends will start to notice that they haven’t really been taking any time for themselves, you sister may notice, your significant other may notice and begin to make the necessary changes to experience the power and growth that comes from setting healthy boundaries. The love you have for yourself is way more vital than the love anyone else could give you. When you create the space to set those healthy boundaries, you’re able to see into yourself and find the love you were longing for all along.

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I am human. There are parts of me that want to recreate my reality into those of my favorite movies. Sidenote: my favorite love stories of all time, Love & Basketball, Brown Sugar, Something Borrowed, and The Best Man. But I let those dreams and expectations go. I had to for my sanity and moving forward with my life. Your boundaries aren’t about anyone else, but about you. Setting healthy boundaries allow you to live your life.

Everything we do is for love. Fall in love with yourself again, by setting healthy boundaries and watch your life begin to change.

Remember who you are.

You are the dream.

You are your greatest desire.

You are everything you’re looking for.