What can we learn from the laundry about life? The washer, of course, goes through cycles. The washer has a lot of cycles — heavy duty, super speed, quick wash, permanent press, normal, etc. And in life we go through cycles, sometimes more than we’d like. Each laundry cycle has a different purpose, the same with life. Each cycle is very different and unlocks a different part of us. Hold on mama, we’re about to go for a self-discovery ride!
Super Speed/Quick Wash Cycle
We are a microwave society. We want things overnight, like right now. We don’t want to wait for it, we don’t want to put in the work for it; we just want it now. The quicker we can get it, the better. Hence all of the fast food restaurants. Just go to the drive-thru, order it, eat it on the go and dinner is done. No cooking involved. Don’t get me wrong, I’m a fast food mama at times. We want to rush every single process that we’re supposed to go through. We don’t want to wait for it, we don’t even want to work for it! We just want it to happen.
You have to put in the work for the things you want. You have to make time for them, you have to sacrifice for them. You may be in your super speed/quick wash cycle of life right now where you’re just like; I need it today. I don’t care what I have to do. I need it now. I needed it yesterday, but God if you can get it to me today, that’d be great! I was in that cycle for a while and then life knocked me back into reality. You can’t be in the super speed/quick wash cycle forever, you’ll get nothing done. You may be doing a lot, but you’re not accomplishing anything.
Heavy Duty Cycle
In this cycle, it seems like everything that can go wrong is going wrong. Life is just coming at you full speed. It’s like the weight of the world is on your shoulders. It seems like God is throwing everything He can think to throw at you. You’re being tested. In my heavy duty cycle, I lost a child. Let’s talk about Job and his heavy duty cycle, where God was continually testing him and his wife was like “why don’t you just curse God and die” because God was just taking him through so much. A lot of people go through their heavy duty cycle and fall into a depression or want to just give up on life completely and if that’s you, please pick up the phone and talk to someone. There are a lot of services available, the suicide prevention hotline is open 24/7, if you feel you need to talk — 1-800-273-8255. This is just a cycle, it’s not permanent. You just have to keep pressing. Reach out for help if you need it. In this cycle, you’re being primed, prepped for your greater.
In this cycle, things begin to level out a bit. Life seems to be going as it should. The kids are kind of listening — they’ll never fully listen — work is going ok, business is going great, your relationships are flourishing, you’re praying, you’re working out, you’re eating healthy, you’re drinking your water, you’re minding your business and life is just going fine, everything is great. But again, life happens in cycles. We get really really REALLY comfortable in the normal cycle. We tend to get comfortable and we just stop doing everything we did to get here. We tend to get on our high horse. We start thinking, I did that, I’m running this business, I’m a damn good mama, I’m a damn good wife — he’s lucky to have me, We become complacent. We start to slack and things start to fall out of alignment, but we don’t like to think of things that we way.
You are in control of everything that happens to you in every cycle in life you go through. You can choose to let an issue bother you and weigh you down. You can choose to be a victim, but you’re not. You are NOT a victim of motherhood. You are NOT a victim of those bad relationships. You just relinquished control. The moment you realize that you aren’t a victim, the moment you stop feeling sorry for yourself, the moment you take back your power, is the very moment that your life will change. Then you move on to the most important cycle, waterproof.
In this cycle, you’ve realized your power and no matter what happens, you come out a victor on the other side. You’re not letting anything in life get you down, you’re no longer a victim, you’ve reclaimed your power, you’ve reclaimed yourself, you’ve fallen back in love with yourself, you’ve found you again and you’re waterproof. There’s nothing that can be thrown at you that you don’t know how to handle. There’s no situation that will arise that you won’t come out of victorious. You’ve gone through super speed, heavy duty, normal and you rest in waterproof. In waterproof, you may have to fight but the best part about being in a fight in waterproof, you have all the tools necessary to win, to come out unscathed, unbothered, to not be affected.
As mamas, as women, we rarely make it to waterproof and I’m speaking from experience because we relax in normal. We relax in knowing that everything and everyone else, other than us, is taken care of. We rarely push through normal to get to waterproof, to get back to us. We lose us in them. We think because they’re good, that we’re good. But are you really? You are not your husband. You are not your kids. You are not your friendships. You’re not your house.
You are your own separate entity from everything and everybody. While you’re making sure everyone is okay, who’s making sure you’re alright? Who’s making sure that you get your self-care time? Who’s making sure your mental health is up to par? Who’s making sure your feet are cute and don’t have any cracks or dead skin? Who’s making sure your nails are done? Who’s making sure that you are indeed happy? Who’s making sure you’re developing mentally as you age because as we all know every age is a new level? While you’re making sure everything is done for everybody else, who’s taking care of you?
As much as your husband, kids, and girlfriends love you; nobody is going to love you like you love you. Take time, think back and evaluate your life. What laundry cycle of life are you in? How can we get you from where you are right now, to waterproof? How can I help you get back to you — before the kids, before the marriage?